How not to say ” I LOVE YOU “

The
most important lesson about the words “I love you” is this: Your
actions must always be in-sync with these words—or the meaning behind
this statement becomes null and void!

Andrew Christensen, a psychologist at UCLA, explains

“Sometimes
these are almost like compulsive acts. If someone really does it that
often, she could be seeking reassurance.” Christensen adds that
“Perhaps she feels he is such a wonderful catch and she can’t do any
better, and that he has more options,” he says. “That could make her
feel insecure in the relationship. Being directly or indirectly aware
of a power differential can lead to anxiety and reassurance seeking.”

To prevent from possibly annoying your guy, here are some tips for saying those three little (but so big!) words.

1)
Don’t rush; be sure to really mean what you say. You may express your
feelings on the phone, in person, on line, by mail. Choose your
favorite way, you may change it at any time. Think about how you’d like
to let your partner know the way you feel, keeping in mind that
uttering those words may give birth to a lifelong memory. If
spontaneity works for you, wait for the perfect moment. If you’re more
methodical, consider writing a love letter first, then telling your
mate in person the next time you get together.

2)
After you’ve said, “I love you,” tell him the specific traits and
habits that you love about him. Don’t just repeat this generic phrase
or you will chew the entire flavor out of it. Hold his hands, and make
eye contact, this gives the moment the intimacy it deserves.

3)
Don’t say your first “I love you” during a time of intensity—be that
either making love or making war. If you say it during sex, your
partner may doubt the sincerity of your proclamation. If you say it
during a fight, you might only be doing so to gain control of the
situation.